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You said yes.

Now what?

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The truth

The problem was never
your ability.

You were chosen for a reason. They didn't ask a stranger. They asked you — the person who knows how they met, what makes them laugh, what they've survived together.

You already have everything that makes a ceremony unforgettable. The stories. The specificity. The love. What you've been missing isn't talent.

You've been missing the roadmap.

The right questions to ask the couple. The right questions to ask the people who know them best. The structure that turns raw material into something shaped, something felt, something remembered long after the flowers wilt.


The solution

The Ceremony Blueprint.

The roadmap you've been looking for.

The Ceremony Blueprint is a complete system for friend-officiants — people who love the couple deeply but have never done this before (or want to do it better than last time). It walks you through every phase: what to ask, how to listen, how to build a ceremony that sounds like you and feels like them.

It covers the questions most officiants never think to ask. The sections most people fumble. The ring exchange, the vows, the opening, the close — with options, not scripts, so everything you say is yours.

This isn't a template. It's a process. And it works.


Why this exists

Built from the front
of the room.

By real people. For real people. Not AI.

I'm not a professional officiant. I'm a friend — someone people kept asking to marry them because they trusted me to get it right. Over years of standing at the front of rooms full of people who love the couple more than anything, I learned what to ask, what to listen for, and how to shape it all into something that makes a room go quiet in the best possible way.

There are tools that will generate a ceremony for you in minutes. What they can't do is ask the right question at the right moment and hear what's hiding in the answer. They can't find the detail that makes the room laugh and cry at the same time. They can't know that the thing said almost in passing — about a note left on a seashell, or Sunday afternoons, or what someone does when the other one is having the worst day — is exactly the line that will make everyone lean forward.

The Ceremony Blueprint is everything I built along the way. Refined over real ceremonies, for real couples, by a real person who has felt exactly the weight of what you've been asked to carry.

I made this so you don't have to figure it out the hard way.

The Blueprint

Choose your
level of support.

Every tier includes the core Blueprint. Add on what you need.

Tier 1

The Blueprint

$29

One-time download

  • The complete ceremony questionnaire
  • Couple interview questions
  • Ring exchange options
  • Ceremony structure blocks
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Tier 2

Blueprint + Family Add-on

$39

One-time download

  • Everything in Tier 1
  • Family & friends interview guide
  • Story-gathering prompts
  • Questions only the people who love them can answer
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Tier 3 · Best value

Blueprint + Family + Sample

$49

One-time download

  • Everything in Tier 2
  • A full sample ceremony script
  • Annotated with guidance notes
  • See exactly how it all comes together
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Tier 4 · Concierge

The Punch-Up

$249

Tier 3 included

  • Everything in Tier 3
  • You write the first draft
  • I make it unforgettable
  • One round of personal revisions
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What people are saying

Real ceremonies.
Real results.

From the officiants who used it and the couples who lived it.

"People are still telling us it was one of the best ceremonies they've ever been to."

We asked my husband's best friend to marry us — he had never officiated a wedding before, but we knew he'd be perfect for it. Instead of going the traditional route, I really wanted something that felt like us, and I'm so glad we trusted that instinct. He used The Wedding Blueprint to create a ceremony that was incredibly personal and meaningful, while still feeling polished and put together. It captured our story in a way I don't think a traditional ceremony ever could. Honestly, people are still telling us it was one of the best ceremonies they've ever been to — and that means everything to us.

Nicole K. — Bride, married 10/25/19

"A decade-long love story, told in a funny, moving, and beautiful ceremony."

My wife and I asked our family friend to officiate our wedding. Using The Wedding Blueprint, he was able to convey a decade-long love story into a funny, moving, and beautiful ceremony. People still rave about our officiant — and I cannot recommend The Wedding Blueprint enough!

Dylan M. — Groom, married 6/21/24

"A fun date-night activity for the couple — and a flawless ceremony."

I used this for two weddings I officiated and it was detailed, thoughtful, and easy to personalize. The structure made it simple to build a ceremony that felt meaningful without being overwhelming. Prior to the ceremony, sharing the template with the bride and groom turned into a fun date-night activity — they ordered in food, poured a glass of wine, and were able to share laughs, reflect on their growth, and really consider their big day. The questions allowed for a relaxed, intimate way to remind them why they were making this step. If you want a wedding script that's practical, customizable, and actually fun to use as a couple, this is a wonderful choice.

Sara H. — Officiant, New York, NY

"Thrilled and terrified — until I had the right structure."

When I was first asked to officiate my best friend's wedding I was thrilled and terrified all at once! I knew I needed an outline to keep me grounded. The questionnaire provided the perfect structure — it lent me a professionalism that made the couple feel comfortable with me as their officiant. The questions helped me get to know both my friend and their partner's perspectives and provided details that were invaluable to the ceremony. It ensured that no important ritual or tribute was omitted on this momentous day. I could not have officiated with success and ease without it!

Sarah S. — Officiant, Long Island, NY

"The perfect length, the perfect tone — the wedding of our dreams."

When we were getting married it was so important to us that the ceremony be done by someone who knew us. Our officiant was an incredibly smart and capable person, but not familiar with how to create a ceremony. The Wedding Blueprint helped him immensely — he was able to seamlessly create his remarks to be the perfect length and tone, combining a few formalities with the personalizations we wanted. It was a huge relief and we got the wedding of our dreams!

Cary P. — Bride, married 6/1/21

"Intimate without being invasive — perfectly timed and choreographed."

We asked our shared best friend to officiate our wedding in part because we knew he'd do a great job since he knew us so well. The insightful questions made us focus on ourselves during a chaotic time of wedding planning, and talk about our love and why we wanted to be wed. The process is intimate without being invasive, and the result was beautiful. We had a very small wedding and using the Wedding Blueprint, we had a perfectly timed and choreographed service that was the perfect tone for us and our families.

Justin D. — Groom, married 6/5/20


Before you go

The most important thing
you'll ever say.

At the most important moment of two people's lives, every person in that room will be listening to you. You were chosen because you love them. Now you have the roadmap to show it.

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